Because I said so

I ♥.... (pronounced I heart) being a meanie and still being loved for it. There are two particular men that are trying to talk to me. I do not care for either of them and I blatantly express my true feelings to them yet they still try to "shoot their shot." One guy texts me every single morning, afternoon and evening. He used to ask my roommate if I was okay because once I wouldn't respond to his texts or answer his calls, yet he still "shoots his shot."  Little does he know, I would never honestly consider associating myself with the likes of him because he used to talk to a white girl that my roommate used to work with. I first met him at at going away party for her (the white girl). He then tries to talk to me once the girl has relocated to a different state and then goes on to diss her like "Nall I didn't really talk to her. I would never really talk to a white girl." Well whoa there Nelly, don't try to erase this woman only days after I sa...

OMG I love love love Beyonce's new video. I can't concentration on any of the words because she is gettin' it in "Single Ladies." After watching this video an astronomical amount of times I myself wanted to dress up in an one shoulder asymetrical bathing suit and some strapy peep toes heels to sing and dance with my girl Bey.  Then after checking my list of banging blogs, I was surpirsed to see that no one was feeling the new video like I was feeling it, some were not even feeling it at all. I say to that, Beyonce, Shake a tail feather on them haters cause this is some way back in the day good old dancing with a little juke and grind. Again, I haven't been able to get out of my trance long enough to listen to the song but it's catchy and it's Bey so I'm sure I'll love it. So in the words of B. Scott: "Love Muffins get into this!" Enjoy!

"She gives me all her love but only half the time" - Donell Jones Which would you rather have? All a person's love half the time or half a person's love all the time? Listening to that old Donell Jones song had me thinking about people who would rather settle for less from one person than find a new someone who can complete them. But if you didn't have that option to find another, would you want to secretly share someone by accepting the fact that you're getting all their love but only half the time. Or would you openly share someone by accepting half their love all the time? I think it's a very valid question to ask with so many people creeping around, laying up and accepting open relationships. Who are we really hurting when we allow someone to be with us and whomever else they choose? Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy? You can't be too happy taking this route for much longer. We have to want more and demand more for ourselves. I whole heartil...

So who leaves home with a scratch off coupon and comes back with a Lexus? Who but my roommate!  Wizzy Wow, this girl is a trip! She already had a nice car, and this stank goes to a car dealership, hoping to win something because she never won anything, ends up winning a Walmart Gift Card only to forget to claim her prize because she was too busy trading in her year old Madza 6 for a black woodgrained ES 330 with tinted windows. Can somebody say BALLIN!?! Then she says, I can't wait to go to the club, hahaha. You gotta love the come up folks, my only question is, can I hold 5 cause you gotta come with it now. You can't half step another day of your life. Those shoes better be clean when you step out that thang! Shirt better be pressed and hair better be laid because now you "look like money, smell like money, talk like money even walk like money..." Look Like Money - Young Ralph

I love the story of my birth. I love it so much that I can't remember what is reality and what is fiction... it's that good. It takes a real good story teller (aka liar) to tell the story of my birth and no one does it better than " Triflin " (my father) but my Aunts have showered me with funny moments as well only for my Mother to crush all the lies with her front seat to the action, but here goes my recollection... if i am allowed to have one. It was a thunder-storming summer Tuesday, the 190 th day of the year (July 9 th ) and a pretty young thang was having crazy labor pains so she kept going back and forth to the hospital and after being kicked out of the hospital for getting slick at the lips with the nurse who said she was having false labor pains she returned home still with child. For the safety and confidentiality of this source, we are going to call her "Mommy".  After a tiresome trip she walks back up the stairs to the house to use the restroo...

I was so hot at work today boi. I mean hot in the worst way possible. One of my coworkers made me so mad that it totally ruined my entire day. He is definitely the type of person who preys on the strong and tries to break them down. Well today might have almost been my breaking point. First of all he's 30 years old. Which isn't old but because he's older than me he needs to play with kids his age. Secondly, he's 6 foot something with a big beer belly so he needs to pick on someone his size. And lastly he is a street dude, supposedly born and raised in the streets and isn't afraid to jump stupid so he is ideal match for a smart mouthed me from Chicago. Because even though I'm not a hood girl, I can show you how a hood girl acts... play wit it.  We have this new girl at work. She's dark skin and so is my new found enemy so he automatically teams up with the girl and tries to turn her against me and another co worker who is light skin, calling us daytime and th...

I always thought that anything South of Chicago, Illinois was country and now I'm here (south of Chicago, Illinois) and these people don't think they are country.  It's quite funny to listen to people talk then in the same breath say they're not country.  So I'm at work at my boss said... you clean around the feet aint cha? I was so confused until I looked down to where he was looking and figured out that he was saying they my shoes were nice.  They commonly call a pop a soda, which is correct of course but a lot of people call it a drink. Instead of thats whats up, they say thats the move. And of course everybody is shawty but a nice looking women is a piece and a not so nice looking woman is a rat.  I love learning new things so every time I meet someone new, which is very often in Atlanta, I pick up a few words from their slang dictionary.  Met a guy from Memphis... he said launching (pronounced lunchin) means shooting off at the mouth with some crazy talk. Met a...

So I have officially been in Georgia for one and a half weeks and I am honestly amazed. Things are much funnier and country-er here and I think it's going to take me a while to get used to everything. On my second day here my roommate took me downtown Atlanta to meet my Father because it was his birthday. While waiting to hear from him, she and I went to the Underground Mall. Inside of Underground was a resturaunt called Johnny Rockets, and inside of Johnny Rockets worked a country gentleman whose name escapes me at the moment... but so we were eating there for the first time so it takes a little while for us to figure out what we want so he reads over the menu with us to try and assist our choosing.  For the St. Louis Burger (which is what we ended up getting) he introduces it as the St. Lunatic burger. I said that I wanted an orange Fanta to go with that and he repeats "shawty you wanna urrang phone-tuh" only for me to say, No I want an orange Fanta. So then we go to a ...

Why do people blame the media for all the wrong doing in the world? I didn't know that the television raised your child, told them to have premarital sex, wear baggy clothes and where to buy the nearest pistol. I didn't know that. I didn't know that the radio taught them derogatory terminology, ghetto tendencies or how to pop lock it drop it. Man I did not know that. I didn't know the magazines made them dress like prostitutes to show all their goodies while giving instructions on how to insert weave and leave their snot nose children at their mother's house. Was it just me who thought that parents' raised children and the things that are portrayed in the media are just that... a portrayal: the act or process of depicting; a representation or description of what is going on in the world today. Media representatives are showing you what is being done, not showing you what is to do. And if one is highly influenced by the material being shown, that means that the...

Blog Family, I have made my move! I now reside in Georgia and I believe that this is where I wanna be. Anyplace different from where I used to be, is where I would have wanted to be. I thought that Georgia would be like Chicago but its not... and that's not a bad thing at all. I didn't know where I would be going, just three months ago, but I knew I wanted to be in a place surrounded by people that look just like me. I say that because, as some of you might know, I'm very "pro-black" and the sight of African American men and women excite me. I guess spending an entire summer in African American-less Green Bay Wisconsin didn't help much either. But don't get me wrong people, I enjoyed my time in Green Bay. I learned a lot of valuable lessons and I met a lot of wonderful people who have definitely impacted my life... but the lack of color really made me realize how much I love my people. I didn't know where I would be working, just three months ago and I...

First of all who says Soda? I grew up saying pop until I got older and realized that it was very remedial and made no sense, so when I am aware of my words I try to say soda.  My boyfriend was in the grocery store last night buying "soda" and ice-cream for a root-beer float (which is country might I add) and he just randomly said "Soda, isle 16" and it had me cracking up because it was the most random.    So if you haven't caught on yet, this entry will be about senseless topics and things that have been on my mind lately. Vibe with me... Do you remember when Crayola crayons came in a big 64 box with the sharpener in the back? Boy my sister and I used to be geeked until one of us broke a crayon in the sharpener and we could use it no longer.  Don't you hate when you ask someone to do something and they do something else? Never seeming to carry out the task at hand, i.e. never doing what you asked them to do. Well it's as if I surround myself with people ...

So my girlfriend Meagan hates when rappers win awards and the first "person" they thank is God. She equates them saying "Without God nothing is possible" to them saying "Thank God for girls licking me like a lollipop" or "Thank God for Bust-it-Babies" when I equate their saying more to "Without God I wouldn't be alive, I wouldn't be me and I wouldn't be winning this award." It's always funny how people interpret things differently but maybe Meagan is on to something. Can hard core rappers... or rappers in general for that matter because no rapper in the game right now is talking anything positive, but can rappers be true to thine selves AND be true to God? Yesterday I was "reunited" with one of my old rappers friends who didn't break my heart, because we weren't those kind of friends but he did hurt my feelings once upon a time and so I hadn't talked to him in about three years until last night. One...

So I celebrated my bday this past week and did a lot of exciting big girl stuff. Even though I have officially celebrated my big girl bday years ago, I am just not living the big girl life.  My girlfriends drove five hours to celebrate with me, we went to an outside concert and a July bday party on Thursday, drove two hours away on Friday to spend money at this new Casino is StL, cat napped at a hotel for four hours then went to the St. Louis Zoo Saturday afternoon, drove back two hours for a get together with my Phrat Brothers then had a big yummy breakfast Sunday morning before their departure Sunday evening.  It was so fun and adult-like that I'm putting this years bday celebration on my top three list. I have been having way too much fun with my life so I have been neglecting my blog and I honestly did not want to write about my daily going-ons so I opted to wait for an important event to discuss.  This was my first real experience at a Casino because the first time I went, I w...

Oh Blog World how I've missed you so... I have been deprived of my free loading as I used to steal other people's Internet because I have a wireless connection but now it seems as if I can freeload from the comfort of my own home no longer, which in turn means there will be entry updates once a week from now on :( Anyway how have you been? I miss you all.  There has definitely been a lot going on in my world and to that I say: things are always going good... until they go bad. So to sum up my two week hiatus I would like to snippet my experiences and I welcome your interpretation.  Why and how do you think Judge's make so much money?  Not because they are doing such a great justice to society putting the bad guys behind bars and not getting great pay from the ever appreciating  government. Instead they are getting paid to scare us into saying "yes your honor" and making us take days off of work to come to court in the middle of the work week to plead guilty to a ...

This   Today is triflin's day!  For all of you new comers, triflin ' is my name for my Father, whom I love even when I am forced to hate him.  I texted triflin ' asking for his address to send him a Father's Day Card and he texted back with his new address and orders not to give it to the police or child support.   Tisk Tisk  That   Anyway, I rented two movies that I have been wanting to see for a while and I was pleasantly refreshed. 27 Dresses was a typical, but good movie. I really enjoyed Kevin's cuteness, the blunt best friend and the sister's " Bridezilla " moment. But I'm a girly girl so sappy movies always get me.  Juno, on the other hand, I knew would be good because of all the awards and positive reviews but seeing it was such a different experience. The movie was not at all what I thought it would be. It was hilarious and there was no Black cast in sight, Juno killed that part and I didn't expect the movie to end like it did but I...

Wow to R. Kelly being cleared of all child pornography charges! Wow to the jury for having hard facts: evidence, witnesses and testimonies, yet still acquitting him of 14... not one two three four but 14 charges of child pornography. You know people say I'm a "chester" which is the old name for a molester, because my current boyfriend is two years younger than me, but Kells is 41! He has been on trial, in and out of court for five years from having sexual interactions with his 13-year-old god daughter (and hundreds of other people's teenage daughters.) Tisk tisk to the justice system and them squares on the jury bench because even Ray Charles could see that man was guilty. Come on... think back, way back to Aaliyah. Wasn't she just 15 when they got married? Had her singing "Age ain't nothing but a number" and what not. He was 26 then but still old habits die hard. This makes me think of my constant arguments with my 12-year-old sister who snaps me up...

I love going to the hair salon, I am always enlightened by my beautician and I always catch up on celebrity news and gossip with all her magazines. She tends to speak of when she was younger, thinner and cuter and how the boys in St. Louis would act and treat her because she lived in East St. Louis. In case you didn't know, as many do not, East St. Louis is in Illinois and across the bridge or water as they say, is St. Louis the city, and according to my beautician the two stayed in rivalry. She also recaps her college years, as we graduated from the same school, was interested in the same sorority and led pretty similar lives. She would tell me how the kids would dress for class, in suits and dresses, as if they were going to an interview. Fraternities always had business suits on and the only time they had on "perry" was at a party or in their down time. Oh how I wish that I could have grown up in a time where people actually cared about their appearance and men owned m...

I stole this quote from SHOEGAL, as I will steal a few more in the future, simply because it was so funny yet so true. You know how you see someone and you be like "yuck who would date him" or as my cousin would say "he look like his breath stank" but hopefully all of those assumptions or pre-judgments dissolve when you finally get to know the person. But how about when you have great expectations about someone and they totally spin your positivity and you feel stupid for ever giving them the benefit of the doubt? You would prefer to have NOT met them because your how you envisioned is so not how they turned out, so you just gotta be real and say "I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you." Point in case, Black American Studies was my minor in college, anyone who knows me know that I love Black people, so when I see Black men in a Black American Studies class, or in any class for that matter, it makes my heart smile. This is until th...

Barack Obama, the junior United States Senator from Illinois, announced his candidacy for the presidency of the United States in Springfield, Illinois, on February 10, 2007. On June 3, 2008, Sen. Barack Obama became the first black candidate to claim a major party’s presidential nomination in U.S. history. That same week, a male friend of mine got into it with a white boy who called him "the n word", then my girlfriend told me that her guy has a cast on his arm because he broke his wrist on a white boy's face because he called him "the n word." What in "the h word" is going on? I mean have people really lost their minds? Obama's victory must have gotten a few people riled up and now Black men are under siege and I have a feeling things will only get worse from here. With every good thing there comes two bad things and as happy as I am for Obama's presidential nomination, I fear for his safety and the safety of people that look like him because ...

I ♥ my new hair. So I did it, I got a bun today! Yay me, I think it's a decent start but it's not that great so when I am more comfortable with it I can rock it a lot better but here is a dark picture of a side view. And its all mine... well except for the stuffing to make the bun of course but big ups to my hair for growing back. I ♥ Tylenol Cool tablets, especially this week because work has been very hectic and my temples have been POUNDING and I have been taking deep breaths and long eye rolls. Try Tylenol Cool tablets when you get a chance, they have a sweet taste and it leaves a cool trail as it goes down your throat. I ♥ Apple iChat. With my boyfriend being in Chicago and me not, I get to see his beautiful face and his stylish apparel on my computer screen, that is whenever his lazy butt feels like sitting in his computer room and talking to me. I definitely recommend it for long distance relationships that is if you are fortunate to have Macs like us, lol. Lastly I ♥ th...