Because I said so

When I was little I thought that you grew up when you turned a certain age, but that age is different when it comes to girls and boys, which made me think that you grew up when you acted like a grown up. But all grown ups don't like grown ups so maybe you grow up after you have been challenged to grow up by doing grown up things like going to college, raising a child or living on your own. For me, it was moment I no longer lived under my mother's roof. I didn't get an apartment of my own but I didn't move in with any of my mother's relatives so that meant that I could make my mother out to be the wicked witch and it would never get back to her. It meant that all the strings that once tied me down would lace no more and I could be my rebellious old self until this new person got fed up, unlike my mother who had already exceeded the maximum limit. At least that's how I thought it would be until I actually lived with my step mother. It was a totally different exper...

I'm sure everyone has had a moment when you ask yourself "What were you born to be?" Well today was my first real day of work after one week of training when typical trainees have up to six months under their belt before their first real day, so you can just imagine what kind of day I just had.  It was definitely an experience, as I am the youngest employee in the whole building, one of four trainees who were thrown into the position after minimal training and the only fool with number dyslexia discombobulating every number in the book for four straight hours.  I am almost positive that I made a lot of patient people impatient with my constant inconsistencies and hand full of "can you please" holds. But I have to say I am very proud of myself for getting through this day because they only get worse from here. It humors me when people who have been doing the job for more than 20 years tell me it's not that bad and they hope I stick around, which to me are two...

Why do people hold their tongues? I mean are we not all adults here? I find it hard to believe that one can not say the word "white" around White people? True if a White person said "black" around me I would open my ears a little wider,  but I wouldn't shun them for saying a word in the dictionary that in some cases might refer to me. I hate when my best friend shushes me or shakes his head in disapproval when I do the aforementioned. What's so wrong with it?  Today at work a White lady said to three Black women that her husband doesn't like her cats because they are black and he believes that black cats are bad luck. I felt a little different at first but I wasn't mad, it didn't make me uneasy like one of the other Black women. I thought it was stupid but she didn't make the sTuperstition up... notice the capital T because superstitions are stupid. Just think about one for a second: "step on a crack break your mothers back"... I me...

Okay beautiful people, today's word is trifling. Do you have a trifling family member, co-worker, friend or ex-friend for that matter because one can only take so much trife in their life. You know that kind of trifling where you vow to never talk to someone again because they trife and you know they always will be. That kind of trifling when you have loaned till you can't loan no more and this time all you can offer is a hug and a prayer. Just a person so disgustingly trifling, you can't be around them for too long for fear off their trife rubbing off on you. Well I know a person like that too. Coincidentally this same person gave me life. There are many words that one could use to describe their Daddy but Webster couldn't create a better word for mine. His trifling ways have taught me that growing older does not always mean growing up. While grooming my Daddy says things like "I'm cleaner than the board of health" and "Clorox ain't got nothing o...

So it's this reality t.v. show called Big Brother that I have never seen or hardly ever heard of until word got around that my buddy Parker would be on it. So of course I called my two closest girlfriends (who also know Parker) and we proceeded to watch the show together through text messages, while one is in Georgia, the other is in Chicago and I am in Carbondale.  Now I love me some reality t.v. and I also love seeing people act a fool so I knew that CBS was in for a big surprise when Parker showed his... you know what, because he is one plum fool! So we are just texting back and forth, commenting on what's happening and then I noticed something about all of us.  When you know someONE and they blow up-even a mini bubble gum blow up, they all of sudden become... someBODY. Now me and my girls are nosey so we do have that as a common interest but in our very own way, we are interested in the show because of Parker and his relevance in our lives just tootsie rolled right up to th...

Hello beautiful people, how was your All Star Sunday? Good I hope, mine got me thinking about how talented and smart athletes are to use what they got to get what they want. I mean as soon as I find out what my talent is I'm going straight to the bank! Some people just have that effect on you where when you see them doing good, you smile and commend them on a job well done and wish that you could be as successful. Well most of us do... others dwell on their misfortunes and prey on you when you're weak so they can kick you while you down. Some call them haters, I simply call them stupid. Now stupidity can go a long way, but during my college years, it seems as if stupidity stopped and made Carbondale it's new home. Carbondale is close to being the southernmost city in Illinois, home of the Salukis and birthplace of "Kill Yo Self," a term that has paved it's way to the heart of my nerves. Some stupid little girl came up with this stupid little idea of getting ba...

I just got off the phone talking about my 17 year old brother and 18 year old sister who I absolutely love to pieces but am sad to say how I really don't have a strong relationship with either of them. I think that it is very important that the youth have a positive role model, someone close to them in age, someone they can trust but I must not think too highly of it if I am not helping my own. It's funny how I mentor students that I go to school with and am a role model to my seven year old cousin Destiny but fail to connect with my own sister and brother. My cousin Syreeta was a great role model to me when I was a teenager, and still is even with three snot nose kids she can do no wrong in my eyes. I don't think I could have grown up without her but my sister and brother barely know what I look or sound like anymore. Big ups to the tmobile sidekick because our relationships are " smply a txt msg awy frm b n "... extinct.   Charse always said that I treat complet...

There comes a time when the things that you thought were good ideas are not such a great ideas and the ideas of others (which you so eagerly blew off), sounds real good right now. It is during that time that you should be a man about the situation (even if you are a woman) and fess up! My situation is... well some may consider it to be sickening. I have done less in the last two months than I have my whole entire life. Believe it or not people, I'm a bum. And it's not the fact that I am a bum that bothers me, it is that there were so many good suggestion and options that I could have taken that I was too stubborn to take and I'm fessin' up just for the sake of honesty because I believe in being true to thyself, i.e. William Shakespeare: To thine own self be true.  How many of you recent college graduates don't have a job? Many, few... all?! Well I have tmobile fav five and 3 of my talented fav five friends who have recently graduated from college don't have a jo...

Well Hello beautiful people, This is a honor to be coming to you in my introduction of a lifetime into the blogosphere. Let me forewarn you all of my (what will soon to become) late night blogging as I do my best thinking in the wee hours. I guess specifics would be in order about now huh?  I am aerialm. Sister to four, bestfriend to three, daughter to two and loved by many. Haha that totally went out of sequence right? Well expect the unexpected with me beautiful people because I'm a hoot to myself and my bestfriend at times so I welcome you to laugh and cry with me (sometimes I laugh myself to tears), as I introduce you into my life and it'll be grand, because I said so!