No Pain, No Gain

We go through lessons in life to build us into this better, smarter, wiser more experienced person but sometimes we fall victim to stupidity that blocks ourselves from taking that lesson and turning it into the learning experience.

For instance, if you are in a bad relationship with someone who you KNEW were bad for you in the get go, the lesson should be to try until you can try no more, go through the rough and ugly breakup, hurt... TERRIBLY and learn from the mistake of choosing to date someone that you KNEW were wrong from jump street. Learn from the mistake of going hard for someone who were not going hard for you or your relationship. Learn from the rough and ugly breakup that you should never leave yourself that vulnerable. Learn from the time spent that you could have been doing so many other things with your life and since you're not getting any younger, make the best out of your life while you are young and beautiful.

That's what SHOULD have happened and from that you move on to live another day and date again. The secret to life is living and learning that pain will be there, so use it to your advantage. Embrace your flaws and redefine what they are and who you are every time you hit a wall. Don't dwell on the past, live it, learn it, lose it and love your decision to do so. No pain, no gain.

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