5 reasons why Men don't want to get married
As I slowly inch up in age, the thought of marriage creeps closer and closer to the forefront and being the blunt and inquisitive person that I am, I have come to a clearer understanding as to why men are not just on another page but in a whole different library all together.
Before I get into the nitty gritty, let me start by saying that there is a slight difference in younger men and older men until the older man is divorced, then they are once again in the mindset of the young man. This post is strictly based off of the mind of a young man via the mind of a young woman.
5. No peer pressure: There are very few social pressures to get married. No one is buzzing around in the ear of a little boy pressuring him to be a good man when he gets older so he can find and marry a good woman. Women are informed of marriage from the very beginning and are often pressured by their mothers, grandmothers, the old lady from church and even taunted by younger women who have married before them. Since they don't have to worry about their biological clocks, men say they want to wait until they are older to settle down, get married and have children.
4. Instability: Men have been taught to hold their own though, so if a man is not financially stable, nine times out ten he won't be interested in marriage. Being a good man unfortunately doesn't equate to being a parent and a spouse. It is instead perceived to mean he should be self-sufficient. A man should be able to feed and clothe himself, before struggling to provide for a wife and kids and without the help of mom, dad and definitely without the help of his girl.
3. No example set: Papa was a rolling stone, Prince Akeem was told to go sow his royal oats and even my closest male friend said he would rather have a few kids with a few girls rather than get married. Young men don't have young married men friends to hang around and get positive influences or positive reinforcement that the married life is indeed the good life.
2. Change is bad: There is nothing wrong with the way it is now, especially if they are shacked up, there is no need for change? Men can get all the comforts they need without making it legal, so why buy the cow when the milk is free? Marriage will require too many alterations, compromises and responsibilities that they are not quite ready for. Woman make it too easy, too comfortable, too ideal. And instead of a man seeing the potential in the woman, he sees the ease and accessibility of a live in or stay over every night type of girl, which brings me to my very last and most important point:
1. Women are easy: They come a dime a dozen, in all shapes and sizes. If one wont go, the next one will. If it is hard to find "The One" they build their dream woman with a variety of women to cater to their every needs. Some women are even fool enough to know that the man is in a relationship but continue to creep on the side simply because they are lonely themselves or because they have already blew their chances of being marriage material so they settle for the side gig. When men get lonely, all they have to do is call up one of their many women. By calling the one that they’re going to be able to spend the night with and leave before cuddling time is ideal and a lot of women allow that nonsense.
If we want change, we have to enforce it ourselves or by the power vested in me, I pronounce you single forever.
Before I get into the nitty gritty, let me start by saying that there is a slight difference in younger men and older men until the older man is divorced, then they are once again in the mindset of the young man. This post is strictly based off of the mind of a young man via the mind of a young woman.
5. No peer pressure: There are very few social pressures to get married. No one is buzzing around in the ear of a little boy pressuring him to be a good man when he gets older so he can find and marry a good woman. Women are informed of marriage from the very beginning and are often pressured by their mothers, grandmothers, the old lady from church and even taunted by younger women who have married before them. Since they don't have to worry about their biological clocks, men say they want to wait until they are older to settle down, get married and have children.
4. Instability: Men have been taught to hold their own though, so if a man is not financially stable, nine times out ten he won't be interested in marriage. Being a good man unfortunately doesn't equate to being a parent and a spouse. It is instead perceived to mean he should be self-sufficient. A man should be able to feed and clothe himself, before struggling to provide for a wife and kids and without the help of mom, dad and definitely without the help of his girl.
3. No example set: Papa was a rolling stone, Prince Akeem was told to go sow his royal oats and even my closest male friend said he would rather have a few kids with a few girls rather than get married. Young men don't have young married men friends to hang around and get positive influences or positive reinforcement that the married life is indeed the good life.
2. Change is bad: There is nothing wrong with the way it is now, especially if they are shacked up, there is no need for change? Men can get all the comforts they need without making it legal, so why buy the cow when the milk is free? Marriage will require too many alterations, compromises and responsibilities that they are not quite ready for. Woman make it too easy, too comfortable, too ideal. And instead of a man seeing the potential in the woman, he sees the ease and accessibility of a live in or stay over every night type of girl, which brings me to my very last and most important point:
1. Women are easy: They come a dime a dozen, in all shapes and sizes. If one wont go, the next one will. If it is hard to find "The One" they build their dream woman with a variety of women to cater to their every needs. Some women are even fool enough to know that the man is in a relationship but continue to creep on the side simply because they are lonely themselves or because they have already blew their chances of being marriage material so they settle for the side gig. When men get lonely, all they have to do is call up one of their many women. By calling the one that they’re going to be able to spend the night with and leave before cuddling time is ideal and a lot of women allow that nonsense.
If we want change, we have to enforce it ourselves or by the power vested in me, I pronounce you single forever.
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