Because I said so

Howdy folks, This is of course my opinion, no historical fact although I did take a survey amongst my male and female cousins. Thank you all for your help... please enjoy, converse and feel free to comment. --- 5. He's just not that into you Have you ever stopped to think that maybe he just settled for you because your boobs were bigger than the girl beside you or you were just so persistent he wifed you before you became his stalker? Come on girls, you give these guys too much credit. He so does not love the thought of you like we girls dream of. If he did he would never be too far, especially not far enough to cheat. 4. You were not available We as women have to take a little responsibility. If your man calls in need and you neglect to honor his request one night, what makes you think he's not going to get it somewhere else. Think about ladies, every single one of us have said to ourselves, to our girls, to a man we want "I can do what she won't do," so which w...

My favorite picture, 2 days old Getting some color and some length, 1 week old My Chocolate Bar, 1 month old Is it wrong to still have this feeling that she's not really my sister? Why do men wait so long to get the paternity test? I mean the sooner the better because if you're a good man you will be spending time and money during the procrastination time so the sooner you know, the more time and money you can have for your new woman. If you are the opposite of a good man the sooner you know, the sooner you can make up for the valuable time that you missed while you were at your other baby mommas house talking about that aint my baby, he got a big ass nose. Well for now she's mine... and she's so gorgeous, isn't she? My little sister Erin.

CNN has this ongoing "Black In America" investigation and they have a pretty good question on the site this week but I am not feeling the answers people are giving. So I wanna ask my friends, family and passer-byers what they think. You don't have to type in your response, a mental answer will suffice but I would appreciate if you did physically respond because maybe it's just me, I could just be biased because I believe that race relations have improved since the election of President Barack Obama. True his election can not, has not and will not drastically change anything but I do feel a big difference in the camaraderie of the African American race. People are a lot more chipper, a lot more cordial and I know for a fact it has helped the children. African American children have a new role model, out with Soulja Boy and in with Barack Obama. Kids now know a lot more about politics thanks to him and they are in turn teaching their ignorant parents. My roommate went t...

Trifling! How can you complain about a store being dirty/messy/un-organized when you pick your babies nose and put the booger on store merchandise/bump into a rack of dvds then sneak and kick them out the aisle/start off with four shirts but come to the register with one because you have stashed the others sporadically around the store so you can come get them next paycheck. Nasty! Don't hold the bathroom door for me when yo nasty ass didn't even wash your hands. You could have took one minute of all that mirror time to wash your nasty ass paws. And it's always the pretty one's too... Yuck Unreasonable! Don't call the store creating a fuss, loud and cursing when in the end you will need our help. You call and ask a question but don't wait for the response. Then wanna ask for the manager when surprise! you're already speaking to her... these people are so unreasonable! Disloyal! Don't work for me monday, wednesday, friday then call corporate to complain o...

Working in retail, I get to see a lot of strange things. This prompted me to start a series entitled Retail Weirdness. So in this weeks Retail Weirdness we are exposing Shoplifters. I have a super awesome Store Manager who is actually about to quit his great paying job with us and take a yucky paying job as a cop in a county ass hick town just because he's always wanted to be a cop, but anyway he's always ready to catch shop lifters in the store. Lately I have been noticing that a lot of women that steal tend to steal a lot of men clothing and at first I used to think they were dumb, getting caught stealing a shirt and tie for your man to go to court tomorrow. His court date that you won't be able to see him off to because you'll be behind bars for stealing something he could have borrowed. Bet he won't be in there stealing an outfit for you when your court date comes around. A lot of these women steal really expensive name brand items for their man, things that the...

Are you assertive or ashamed? Would you rather be just too-much or just too timid? Do you have enough self esteem? I had a conversation with someone who I knew didn't have any self esteem when I first met her. She used to blow up her significant others' phone when she wasn't around him, used to look a hot mess when she was around him and then when she felt competition... she backed down and bowed out. I thought this person could never last in my world. My world filled with fire, drive and determination. She does not hold these qualities, did she ever? In the conversation, she explained how she did but in her last marriage her husband put her down and killed her self esteem so that now she doesn't even look in the mirror when getting dressed. How sad, how sad? I, 12 years younger, had to school her on building and holding her self esteem, respecting herself so that others will respect you and of course strutting your stuff as if it is the best, the last, the only! How co...

Must watch this! Click the title of this entry "For Really?..." to direct you to another post of the same story. Here is the link if you want to copy and paste it to your browser: http://www.mefeedia.com/entry/video-mother-has-twins-with-two-fathers/18411239 Now yall know she too trifling. I would not have embarrassed myself like this... two guys unprotected within five days, so sad people, we have to do better. If not for ourselves, then for the children. 

don't you wanna be passionate about something? something that not everyone can be passionate about? so we all know that as minorities our options seem to be limited but do we all know that we can do anything as long as we have the mental capacity to do so you have to want to learn  you have to want to be better  better than them, better than that, better than the rest i read so often of people who were in a position to do better than their peers but they were killed by their peers how often do we hear of that in chicago you can get no where in a place filled with hatred  you will get no where in a place filled with hatred i had to get out there are so many people doing nothing in chicago that it made me want to stay away so i can stay doing something  i was so afraid that their doing nothing and being comfortable with it would rub off on me  you have to have a focus, have a dream, have a passion for something it's so easy to let your dreams walk away from you you should know th...

Let's talk about something that everyone needs, no not a big house, a fast car and a couple stacks. I'm talking about a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is one that you take knowledge and wisdom from. One that you have patience and interest in. One that does not mislead or steer you in the arms of evil. Believe it or not, I'm directly speaking of platonic relationships. What happened to that group of girls that you used to have in grammar school. The group that consisted of one of your family members, the girl from around the corner, the girl across the street, the girl who lived in the suburbs, the new girl and yourself. What happened to the lets walk to and from school together, take up for each other in any event and vow to never take each other's man. The good old days... Well now your group consists of you, your home girl from around the way and this girl you really can't stand but have no other choice to be friends with because she is the cousin o...

I can never let love die I won't let it I'm too obsessed with finding it, just the thought of it I love love I don't think I have ever been in love because If I were, I think I would have known by now I've loved many for what they have taught me but there has never been anyone who I'd do anything for, would do no wrong to, couldn't be selfish to or could not fathom the thought of loosing...  wait there is this one guy... something about olives hmmmm

I have been thinking that I have been living the fast life full of fun times, men and money. That was until I got laid off from my job. Then it was a life of fun times and men with money. Now I have my job back and I am feeling the roughest transition ever. All the begging that I did while unemployed was legit so my family helped me but my job is not paying what they said they were going to pay me so now I can't pay any of my bills on time, my accounts are negative and my sanity is far from gone. But all I can really think about are my men, because face it, they are the only things I can control right now. So there is this one guy, I will call him Exhibit A.  Exhibit A has a great job, two cars, two phones, he looks great AND he bought us tickets to go see  Beyoncé  in concert! Only he's not the brightest star in the sky and that should be problem enough for me because I need someone on the same intellectual page as myself. But that's not the killer folks.  This man left m...

So you heard it here first blog family, I'm ready to lean how to cook!  And yes, you guessed right, it's to snab my man.  It has come to my attention that a strong man needs a strong woman.  Yep, who woulda thunk? Well a strong hard working providing man understands that not all women want to stay at home with the children and sew but what they do not seem to understand is a woman who calls herself strong and independent but does not know how to cook for herself let alone her man.  Well I've been that no cooking, strong independent woman and it has not occurred to me until now that those qualities do not mesh very well. Being strong and independent means just that and if one day I do not have the money to buy myself a meal, I would expect my man to, but that is a form of dependency so I think I'm gonna need a few lessons in the kitchen someone because my eyes and ears are wide open now.  I once was blind but now I see.  The answer was always right in front of me.  Oh ho...

I hate him.  I hate him because he lies. If I can hate one single thing ever in life, it would be a liar. Why lie? And to me? Who am I to lie to? I believe that a liar is a coward and I have said this before, if you lie to someone, you are afraid of what they could do to you. I like to pride myself in being a pretty honest person because honesty is the best policy even when it hurts because I would rather be hurt off of the truth than hurt by a lie.  (Shaking my head) I hate him. 

I'm such a slacker! I missed my own one year anniversary for my blog. Now for this Belated Happy Anniversary I will talk about... Ashanti! Remember when Ashanti first came out? Foolish was the video! Do you remember that beautiful, talented and hungry young adult who had us all rethinking our effed up relationships? Her follow-up single was "Happy" and there birthed a series of events that I call "The Ashanti." In that video she danced and in that dance there was a move that involved her touching her hair, hugging herself, then pointing to you. Flip that around and put a little speed to it and you have "The Ashanti." You - Me- My Hair. Search any uptempo songs made by Ashanti and you'll see her signature move over and over and over again. Wanna see? In Slow Motion You can search "Still on It" and "The Way that I" for a more of "The Ashanti" because it's so darn cute. Anyway, the point of this entry is to let you kn...

I have breaking news to share.  I went out last night and it was this heavy set but nice looking young lady walking around the sports bar turn club at midnight. She looked very nice considering the side of town we were on and the normal monstrosities we see walking around. She had a some clean and flashy kicks, a pair of nice dark denim pants, a nice top that fully covered her large breasts, a designer scarf and a nice little weave piece. I would give her an A until she walked past me.  q. How can one merely walk and still make a scene? a. Have a dose of the Georgia mumps and not have any tact. This "nice looking, well dressed, heavy set, young lady" has now turned into a "fat, nasty, stank hoe" as she sashayed her way to the stage with her bright red thong sticking out her pants. Now either her butt was too big (which is not the best choice because a man would say no butt is too big), her pants were too little which is why they were sitting so nicely in the front a...

I talk in my sleep. But only the ones who love me wake up to pay attention. I know there are a lot of things that go on in my mind during the day so I can only imagine what goes on while I am asleep. It's funny how people who hear me talking in my sleep always say I said this and that but I can never relate that to the dream I remember having. A friend told me recently that your dreams or nightmares are the opposite of what will actually happen in real life. I used to have this reoccurring nightmare that my first love would come home married to a little Asian lady simply because he went overseas while in the military. I believe I had just graduated high school at that time so I was pretty much a grown woman but that nightmare made me cry every time. That damned Asian... I remember when I was in grammar school my male cousin who was bigger, badder and two weeks younger than me would climb on the roofs of people's garages and jump off. Since I was a tomboy I would join he and his...

Hey Beautiful People, I hope all has been well, sorry that I have been a blog slacker. I have been writing though, just not here. I decided to give you a little something that I wrote a while back when I was having trouble sleeping. A quick little "love poem" if you will... enjoy.  i sniff  i sigh  i smile  as i see you sleeping  oh-so gently in my borrowed twin sized bed damn i need to get my bed outta storage,  then we could sleep together  because now i just let you sleep. i’ve stayed up all night rubbing you  just so i wouldn’t wake you when you slept  oh-so gently in my borrowed twin size bed. when you pushed me clean off one time  i just curled up on the floor and watched you sleep  oh-so gently in my borrowed twin size bed. you freaked out when i told you how cute you looked asleep said “what the hell girl don’t be watching me”  but it is then when i collect pictures the pictures of you that play in my head when i am sniffing  sighing  smiling,  remembering you sleepin...

"Baby when I used to love you There's nothing I wouldn't do  I went through the fire for you  Did anything you asked me to But I'm tired of living this lie It's getting harder to justify I realize that I just don't love you Not like I used to." - John Legend I am sad to say that the love I used to have for myself had disappeared.  I used to get my hair, nails, toes, eyebrows done EVERY WEEK! I mean I fell off from where I used to be, who I used to be.  I used to care so much about what I thought about myself, I would do these things for me and only me as a reminder to upkeep my beauty at any cost, at all times. I look good for myself... at least I used to. I mean don't get me wrong I can still pull another woman's man on my roughest of days but I don't treat myself right and that my friends is an invitation for other's to try to treat me wrong.  How do you fall back into love with yourself?

if i could write a letter to my child the child that i do not have do not want to have do not see myself having i would write it to inform her of all the trouble she has caused of all the late nights filled with worry and frustration headache and heartache sweat and tears or at least the ones that will come to be i wonder if my mother ever thought about writing this letter to me she had me at seventeen i must have kept her up plenty of late nights late nights filled with worry and frustration headache and heartache sweat and tears if i could write a letter to my child the child that i do not have do not want to have do not see myself having i would paint her a picture of the life i lived the life i live now without her the life i love now without her would i love it still if she were here imposing if i could write a letter to my child... a friend of mine aborted his unborn child today im sure the letter to his child would have been similar to mine he says he can't have girls, he ha...

So why is it that when you are single you wanna be in a relationship and when you are in a relationship, you want to be single? Don't know? Ok well how about when you want someone but they don't want you till you're in a relationship with someone else? When you are single you see how good people in relationships look and you yearn to want a love like such. But when you are in a relationship with someone who might not be so perfect, that makes it so easy to want to be single again.  Now wanting someone who does not want you until they see you in a relationship is just greed. People hate to see other people happy so they hate internally until they can find a way to exude hate. Seeing you "boo-d" up makes them jealous even though they never wanted you to begin with, but now they want to turn the tables and make you think of them as they are now thinking of you. The nature of fools will always puzzle me, and I am saying that with the utmost respect to Cupid and his se...