Because I said so

Men with money come once a month Men with good game can mack you up once a week Men with your ideal look appears once a day A man with the right head on his shoulders, who can hold an intellectual conversation and stimulate you mentally comes only Once

Heavy When your hands are over your eyes You can hear your heart beat louder Clearer Harder It's heavy When your mouth is closed You can hear the words of another so clearly You can feel their pain so easily You can understand willingly Light As you listen to the words Tap your feet Close your eyes Bob you head Sway your hips Bite your lip It's lighter The Pain Easier To breathe

When it's blood Sweat Tears My natural hair is all frizzed up. My pores all open. My mind racing. Heart pounding. It's either you or me. Now or never. All in? Then you fail. Second chance. You back at it. This time harder than before Or maybe you're softer. Its wearing you thin. This love. Giving up is way easier than trying. You push only so they can pull. Cry only so they can wipe your tears. Do it all over, every time... So they can hurt you again. Unconditional love.

You're just now falling I've already fell You've come upon the ledge I've sunk to the very bottom You can turn around and see the beginning Things are blurry and I can only see the end It's bright where you are I'm surrounded by darkness The birds are chirping in your ears Silence... engulfs me There are still options for you Which route will you take I don't remember if I had a choice Of course I did, but my decision didn't take as long as yours

Why do people get married? Because they love each other and they found the person they want to spend the rest of their life with Why do people get divorced? Because they can't stand to be attached to that person another moment Why is the divorce rate half of the marriage rate? Why vow your love and life to someone who you doubt? Because no one really changes over night... You saw these signs before but love had a haze over your eyes? Or did you have your own hands over your own eyes?

When mothers and fathers don't do their job parents they become sperm donors in my book Just someone to pull features and bad habits from No one of importance When fathers don't play their role in a child's life early on the child despises them and never fully accepts them in their adult life The child, if female longs for her father and often blames herself for the distance between them The child, if male, vows to never treat their child how their father treated them When mothers don't play their role in their child's life early on the child becomes their own person without them Then when the mother returns and tries to establish a parental relationship the child declines and the mother is forced to be a frien-emy (friend+enemy) When that male child becomes an adult it will be hard for them to appreciate a woman because their mother was never there to show them how to do such a thing It will be easy for them confide in older male friends as they are trying to find...

I enjoy talking to this one older lady who gives me wisdom, insight and hope. She is a beautiful mid seventies Chilean woman with a thick mixed with Louisiana accent. She ran away at the age of seventeen for love. And she's been married ever since. She and her husband have eight children together. This wonderful lady gives me wisdom. On being cool, not letting any one get to you, not letting anyone steal your happiness. She said she may be old but she thinks young. Exercises and keeps a positive mind so not to dwell a self created sorrow. She goes to Saints games, kicks it in the French Quarters and cooks her husbands hot meals everyday. She gives me insight on making it work, never giving up and staying happy for the future of your relationship. Her relationship was young, but it lasted. The countries borders couldn't keep her away, the language barriers could barricade her no longer, love surpassed all. And it still does today. They are a joy, they respect each other and they...

The best lessons are the ones you don't plan for. I went to church two days ago, for my Godson's Christening (which I thought was his Baptismal until his Daddy schooled me). We were supposed to be there before 7pm Bible Study but you know Black Folk... so we were "stuck" into staying for Bible Study, which was just fine with me. Give me my blessings baby! Two hours later, the lesson was learned and my spirits were lifted... until it was offering time. This particular church, in which I was a first time guest, had the people come up to the front to put their donation in the bucket. How ridiculously rude. You must know by now that I didn't have any cash. lol. So I was sitting while everyone else was up. Well don't worry, said the Bishop Preacher Pastor man. We have a ATM. An ATM in the church!? Ok stick the fork in me. I love the Bible because I love reading and I love learning. It's the whole church idea that doesn't have me running to the pews every S...

I'm an aunt! My sister has a child. We have a baby in the family. The first grandchild for my mother. She's so proud yet not so comfy with the grandma word. It's funny how things work. Growing up I always knew my sister would have a child before me. Not because she was fast (because she is definitely not), but because she has always been the child closest to mommy. She's a natural already. I'm so proud of her. The beauty of reproducing. I should think about trying that one day.

5. Burp Have you ever heard a woman burp after a hearty meal? Like a real burp, not those prissy, in the mouth burps but a real live Homer Simpson rattle the lips burp. I have a friend... Randi Nance to be exact... who can burp a man under a rug. I know it's not attractive but it's cool and mildly entertaining. 4. Zone out when ESPN is on Oh man don't let the man she's with or trying to impress be on the way. She will zone everything out and focus so hard so that she can know the names, numbers and statistics of all the players (not just the cute ones). Nothing impresses a man more for a women to be into the stuff that he's into. Unlike the rest of us girls (raises hands) who could care less and could win the trophy for zoning out the opposite way when ESPN is on. 3. Cheat If you thought you were slick hunny, "wait till I show you this" (Ying Yang edited version of The Whisper Song). A women is better at cheating because face it, men don't care enough ...

The Beauty Shop (or hair salon as they call it) is a humbling place. It is there you gain the confidence that you once lacked in one single visit. It is there in that black leather chair that you become the person you should have always been. Happy, confident, beautiful. In the Black community the hair salon is the "it spot". The place where you get all your gossip about the Jones' while getting a $40 hour long process that costs double and takes triple. I currently experienced a Dominican salon. Now they work! In hot tempetures, with no television or stereo playing; no disturbances other than their very polite and very helpful children with nappy heads. Which brings me to ask "Maam, why the hell are you touching my head and your Childs head looks like a tornado hit?" Anywho, minding my business atop my head. They do an excellent job and your hair comes out bone straight after stupid amounts of hot as hell (used in the formal noun) heat. I walked out a new perso...

... when you waste your time introducing your parents to the person that is SO not the one. ... when it doesn't work out and your parents say "I don't want to meet another one of your gangsters/hoodrats until you're engaged." ... when you're stuck between two guys and you choose the wrong one. ... being head over heels for someone else's man. ... people who claim to love you when they clearly don't even love themselves.

... when you tell somebody to keep a secret & they can't so they be trying to tell it without telling it? ... when you go into the situation saying I'm going to do the right thing until you're halfway done doing the wrong thing. ... when you walk by a man, look him in the face yet he doesn't say anything until you've walked all the way past him. And even then all he has to say is "uhm umph uhm" ... when you're pouring your heart out to someone and all chose to say is "stop complaining and be grateful." ... when things aren't fair. And you hate even saying the word fair because it makes you feel six years old again.

... When you always want some shit you can't get? I always want the tuna sandwich special from Subway Sat-Thur, when the special is only on Fridays. I always want a Chick-fil-a cookies and cream shake on Sundays... when they are closed. And I always crave a McDonald's hashbrown around noontime... after breakfast hours. ... When Black ass people get tattoos? That was a waste of money bruh. ... Friends that lie so much you have to save all voice mails and text messages from them to use as evidence against them? ... When you've done all you've can, but it still doesn't work?

... when he starts an argument just to piss you off ... when he leaves the toilet seat up ... people that sing really loudly but don't know the words ... when people take a water out of the refrigerator and don't replace it. You know you didn't put that muthafucka in there so why you drinking it ... wet towels on the edge of the bath tub? Ring it out and hang it up to dry ... when it hurts so bad and feel so good

Being around your man's friends is like being around stray dogs: don't make eye contact! So I'm at his basketball game and there are a whole lotta "my types" so I hold my head down to keep from staring and slobbing and I lock my eyes on him. They all were looking at me so I made it my business NOT to look at them. He was on the bench, my eyes were on the bench. He was on the floor, my eyes were on the floor. It was hard but I managed to sneak out unharmed, with no new numbers... just as I had came in. Someone needs to leash these animals I swear, sheesh. I almost got myself in trouble, looking so damn good at an intramural basketball game. Note for next time: look even hotter and ignore even harder! If you're his girl, stand firm and be his girl! No one likes a flip flopper, bed hopper. And we shall always remember that Danger smashed the homies!

when you know you're doing the wrong thing how do you know doesn't your heart beat faster your blood boil and your teeth grit why do you continue why is it so difficult to do the right thing maybe it's because you don't know right from wrong or maybe you do but you confuse the two at the worst possible times when you know you're doing the wrong thing why don't you stop stop while you're ahead stop before it's too late stop because ... why did you continue why do you continue when you know you're doing the wrong thing why don't you stop why is it so difficult for you to do the right thing when you know you're doing the wrong thing

Truth. If you give a girl the password to your computer, your phone, your safe, your facebook... definitely your facebook; you better believe she's going to write that thang down (literally, mentally, in smoke signals) so she can check into it later. Misconception. Just because we have the password does not mean we will use this information against you. If we have no reason to snoop, then we won't. Well maybe I shouldn't include myself in this conversation because I, at some point in time, snoop around but not your typical snoop and probably not where you think I should snoop. But if you have a good relationship with this girl, you trust her and trust that she wouldn't use this information to harm you, then why not give it to her... just this once? A friend of mine emailed me. His email address appeared after the name of his ex girlfriend. I was taken aback. Stuck in a confused daze until he called. I don't even think I said hello. I said "why is Zerica's n...

I hate the n-word. There is no anger greater than me witnessing an adult argue me down about how n-i-g-g-a is different from n-i-g-g-e-r. Don't waste your breath idiot. I hate the n-word. And to you, that can be any word that starts with the letter n. I inform everyone I meet, as soon as they say the word, that I don't like it and would prefer if they didn't use it when talking to, about and around me. 99% of them oblige but you know there is always a 1% somewhere that can't or won't do right. I bring this back up (I've spoke on this subject before: WORD OF THE DAY ) because everyone around me loves The Boondocks and until one day last week, I had never watched a full episode because I can't tolerate their excessive use of the n-word. I know, I know... that's the point of the show... a social satire of American culture and race relations but I don't care about any of that. I know how hearing the word makes me feel so I do not subject myself to ill fe...

Don't you hate when you play a scenario in your mind and it never goes the way you planned it? You thought you knew where you stood but reality is you don't because he was able to shift your stance. An ex boyfriend did this to me just a minute ago. I thought I was sick of his misleading, flirting with me and all the others girls we went to school with. Even though we don't have much of a relationship now, we had spoke of maybe doing something in a couple of years when he comes back from playing overseas. Then I got caught up in some nonsense and I dismissed him in my mind. I didn't call, didn't text, didn't think of him. Until he called me. He spit his game and now I'm back to square one. Big bad wolf until the hunter came. I'm always living in a fairy tale. Now I'm little red riding hood... again.

Man eating better, exercising and still living a busy life is wearing me thin. No wonder why I ate what I ate and drank what I drank... it kept me moving. But I am doing very well with Operation Swimsuit if you were concerned. I have still been eating well and working out everyday... well except for that one day after I was swinging on the pole. That is a workout in itself and my arms were too tight to work let alone workout. Anywho check the visuals... I'm proud of myself.

Day 2 - Wednesday May 19, 2010 Woke up and did 225 crunches and 25 push ups. Take a shower, get ready for work. Had to take my friend to Walmart before work. There was a McDonalds in the Walmart. I really enjoy McDonalds and I was hungry. I ordered a plain biscuit, grape jelly. Ate that, drank my bottled water and was very content until lunch time. We were busy at work so I asked my supervisor to come to Olive Garden and eat healthy with me (on an extended lunch (on the clock)). We had soup, salad and breadsticks. I had a raspberry lemonade and a really great filling meal. Took a little doggy bowl of soup home for dinner. After I burnt my tounge and before I went to bed I did 250 crunches. Good day! I later found out that it was a bad day because I ate too many breads and bread is not a good idea on a "diet"... well now I know.

Day 1 - Tuesday May 18, 2010 Woke up and did 225 crunches and 25 push ups. I am turning 25 so I figured 25 would be a good number to use. I got in the shower and shaved. Shaving always makes me feel cleaner, prettier and more alive. I ate a Jimmy Dean breakfast bowl and drank a small glass of orange juice. I start my day! Go to work. No snacks! Ate a footlong tuna sub sandwich on wheat bread from Subway, lots of vegetables and a bottled water. Blah Blah Blah come home and before I drift into the land of the sheep (sleep) I do 200 crunches. Day 1 down, 30 more to go.

My girlfriend Hilbring is celebrating her 25th birthday in the Bahamas this year. I love a good planning friend, not those "never follows through but ALWAYS trying to plan some shit" friends. We are leaving Miami on a cruise to the Bahamas. Everyone is excited about the Bahamas. I'm way too excited about Miami. Lol, either way it'll be mid-June so and I will be in a swimsuit and on somebodies beach so I set an obtainable goal for myself in lieu of this marvelous trip. I have to shape up the midsection in order to stunt on the beaches of Miami and the Bahamas. I just gotta do it! Especially hanging with Hilbring ! That chick is a size 2! That's her in the side photo, you gotta know that ain't me! Tall, slim, yellow, long hair... Cue Monique "Skinny women are evil" lol. But I love my size! I look good! Just not so great in a two piece. I tried to hide this fact by buying a monokini (one piece with the back and sides out) but I said nah let me push mys...

So I have been stupid stressed lately. Not the stress that can be easily solved with a tylenol. But the stress can needs to be calmed with an alcoholic beverage or a cancer stick. I've been feeling mighty Tweet-ish, i.e. Smoking Cigarettes And I don't even drink or smoke! It has come to the point of total misunderstanding, if you can understand that. Funny thing is that my stress is not caused by a man. Well not by a man that I'm liking on and anything like that. And no I am not subliminally speaking of "the man" either. It's hard to explain... Tweet? Can you help? "What's you perception of love? Now how many times did we say it was over? And how many times did we not leave? There's no sense in this love hangover, please come back to me." "You got me nervous and trembling (smoking cigarettes at night)" "Sometimes my eyes won't close from weeping and sometimes I can't wake up from sleeping, cause you keep calling me, kee...

If relationships are like entrees, I'm full The appetizers were appealing The salad was superior The main meal was magnificent and the desert... delicious But It's so routine, It's so mundane and I'm so ready to burp. But just when I thought it was bad beyond relief, someone offered to pat my back. "My Beau" (as he so claims to be) proposed courtship today. He said he's giving me four weeks to accept his offer or for any other men to make a better offer. Even if he comes to his senses and reneges on me I will always cherish this day. I can't stop smiling. Check Please.

Why can't everyone go to the school of golden arches? These lousy retail associated kill me! Everyone is having a bad day. Everyone is just here for a paycheck. No one is here to service the customer, give good advice and ensure satisfaction. WHY NOT? I blame the lazy ass managers/trainers. If you have a manager that gives a shit, they would train a lousy person and conform them into a customer service representative and even better: a decent person. I am going through my passport process. I call 1800ASKUSPS to get my checklist of what I need to have in order to apply for my passport without hassle. I go to Walmart to see how much it is for a passport photo, the girl at the desk reading a novel said $10. I frown and ask if that was a good price. She said Walgreens has them cheaper. GREAT CUSTOMER SERVICE! Thank you girl. I go to Walgreens. They take my photo, two dollars cheaper, cool. Next day, I take my items to the post office only for the lady to tell me that my Walgreens photo...

Why do people trip about breaking big bills? I mean really make a fuss about breaking a 50. Stupid you're going to have to break it eventually. Gimmie the gat damn money! Why do people put other people on the phone when they know you don't like them? I try to be nice and say, "tell Sally I said hello." You wanna speak with her. "NO I DON'T! Oh heyyyy Sally..." Why do drunk people get on my nerves so much? I'd rather deal with a drug addict, I swear. Drunk people be talking so philosophically and emotionally. Asking stupid ass smart questions and laughing for no reason. Smh, help, why me?

> If I ask you (a man) if I got you in trouble (with your girl) the answer should always be hell nall. How can she punish you? You got the game super twisted. You need to switch organs cuz she definitely wearing the pants and you my dear are wearing the panties if you are a grown man and you still get in trouble. #clockout >If you don't have a car because she gave you two flats and a brick through the back window #clockout. >If you don't have a phone because you gave it to her so she can get a job but you don't have a job #clockout. >If you don't have a job because they fired you because she kept coming up there causing a scene #clockout. After all that if you're still with her you should #clockout but you're the ultimate dumb if you knock her up! > If she is the hospital, IN LABOR but she still has time to answer YOUR phone and screen YOUR calls you need to #clockout because you're the weakest link, Goodbye. (by the way this is all true... ...

This one friend of mine is in some deep shit. 1. He's in jail. 2. He's in jail because he was speeding on a stolen motorcycle. 3. His mother is a laywer and she is so pissed at him that she won't get him out. 4.5.6.7.8... 9. He is a pretty boy Kappa, which has turned him into a womanizer. But the number one reason why he is in some deep shit is because 10. He gave his main girlfriend the passcodes to his voicemail, email and facebook. Ok let me break down that last sentence. He gave his main girlfriend the passcodes to his voicemail , email and facebook . Isn't that against the player handbook? If you have a main girl that means you have other girls... so why? The passcode to your voicemail... the voicemail that all the girls are leaving messages on because they heard you were in jail. The passcode to your facebook... the place where you do ALL of your dirt. I mean come on, how stupid can one man be? His excuse was that he didn't have anything to hide from her and ...

last night I lost my best friend don't be sad for her she lived a long painful life she died a quick much needed death lots of times it was just she and I I don't even remember how we met I used to be so different until I met her she changed my life when she was here but now she is gone long gone her name was insecurity and she used to hold me back but she died last night

Okay I'm going to make a major generalization about people and their preferences and say "Light Skin people are more likely to be attracted to Dark skin people" and "'Dark skin people are more likely to be attracted to Light Skin people." I am what I like to call light brown, some like to call me caramel. So that means I can go either way with my preference but anybody that knows me knows I like a high yellow tender but funny I'm falling hard for these brown like me boys... anyway why is it that people care so much about the shade of their date or mate? If I can be so honest in saying I am only attracted to yellow men. If I see yellow skin from way yonder I will break my neck to see what his face looks like. And don't let him have colored eyes... (peep my boyfriend in the photo attached.) If I see a brown skin man I might scope him out if I see a dimple or something but a dark skin man could get no play from me unless his teeth are Colgate crisp and ...

Why is there a peach milkshake at Sonics (sounds yucky) and there are always Peach flavored sodas on all the end caps in Kroger, like the drink of the week. Just because we are in Georgia does not mean everything can be in peach. I'm Black and I love to see a smokin hot White man but why do I turn my nose when I see Bi-racial couples? How can people rip their paycheck to pieces when all they have to do is follow along the preferated edges? Why can women buy a whole club outfit for $40.00 and men can only purchase a shirt for $40.00? Why do people always want you to take them somewhere but never offer to give you five on the gas?

I don't like him --- It's not your place to like him He makes my skin crawl --- You don't even know him My opinion doesn't even matter --- So why waste your breath But I think it should matter --- But you know it doesn't He's going to ruin her life --- It's HER life not yours Poor girl --- Poor you

It is so clear to me what it takes to snag any man... Time. All you have to do is stall them out and let them show their real colors, let the dogs dismiss themselves. Or stall them out to make the real men fall in love with you. Real women wait! Because love takes time. There is nothing to rush. Think about it... how many people fall in love and marry the person that they had a spring fling or one night stand with? When you give up the goods before the goods are due, you just signed your papers to a bad case of the blues. Especially if you called yourself liking them. It's funny because when you like someone, you want to please them and give them whatever they want. You want to smother them and show them how much you like them. All this to the point of no return. You didn't even give them a chance to know and like you before you've ran them away. To put the cherry on top, you gave them the goods so they can come back when they need you but when they are gone, they are gone!...

So there was an "almost attack" of the Big Dog Gang last night. They must have just migrated to our area recently because I had never heard of them till this weekend and had never seen them until last night. My roommates' dad said they surrounded him as he was getting out of the car the night before last and that one was so close it could have bit him. Sure I laughed when I heard the story... Who wouldn't? Two nights later as I am coming back from a late night dinner date. I pull into my driveway blasting music as usual. The only reason I turned my music down before I pulled into the driveway was because my roommate just had a baby and her room is right above the garage. I never park in the garage though so I reverse into the driveway and quickly hit the power button on the radio in an attempt to stay still because three big ass dogs just surrounded my car. OMG! They lookin at me I'm lookin at them... Then I look away as I remember you're not supposed to look ...

I have three serious questions. Why do people always try to hook you up with their brother who don't got no teeth or their sister who got six kids and seven baby daddies? Why do people sweat you for your number but don't offer to give you theirs? Then text you "hey, what's up' as if we've been friends for years and I have your number stored. Why do people always volunteer applicants to you as if you own your own business and said you were looking for bullshit applicants. "Aye my cousin B-Moe need a job but he has a felony from '04." Please, help me find the answers. I need feedback. These are my brain busters for the day.

Watching the Amerie video "More than Love" ft. Fabolous made me realize how ridiculously easy and cheesy women are. I recommend watching the video before you continue, or you could read this spoiler then humor yourself by watching the video too see if it happens just as you envisioned it. In the video Amerie and boyfriend Fabolous are spending quality time together, which it seems they rarely get a chance to do. Then Fab picks up his phone and starts an email, then leaves the apartment and peeps around the porch so she won't see him typing on is phone as he is leaving the apartment. Amerie hires a photographer to follow Fab to see what he's up to because their relationship didn't use to be like it is now, he comes back with photos of Fab talking to some woman. Fab comes to talk to Amerie, she tells him to leave, he says fine if thats how you want it but "this is me and trust me, I don't even trust me." He leaves, she gets more photos of him with the...

Never change who you are for someone else. Because once you change, you lose some of the real you. The real reason why that person liked you in the first place. They just didn't know until you changed it but now its too late. They don't want you anymore. So now they playing the role. Got you way on the back burner so that you can voluntarily erase yourself from the equation. Then they hit you with the "I thought we were cool," "I thought we were together" bid to make you feel bad for breaking up with them. So you retract the statment and try to work it out, thinking you over-reacted but you're confused because they still playing you to the left but yelling that "couple shit." You start acting a fool demading attention then they pop up and break up with yo' dumb ass. Now " you looking like a fool witcha pants on the ground" cause you had the power... now you don't.

There is no other way I can be true to you than be true to myself first I owe you no more than I owe my first born the chance of life, the chance to make a difference, the chance to make a change you should be put in no order you should held to no high regards because of your self proclaimed title you are just as bare as you began now prove yourself worthy

Remember when your grandmother used to say she dreamt of fishes? Everyone would be looking around, eyebrows raised, waiting for a confession of pregnancy. Too bad I don't have any grandparents because if I did their bedrooms would be full time aquariums due to the abundance of fat girls surrounding me. And by fat girls I mean pregnant girls/women. I hate when people tell me that I am next just because all of my friends are knocked up. How rude of you to curse me like such? Don't you know that I have been latex tight since I heard word of my roomates' pregnancy. I mean I love my roommate but to each is definitely its own. I have an eight month old sister who I babysit weekly. I be sad, yet so relieved when she long gone... with her talking ass. Is it so wrong for me to want to be happily married before I reproduce? Why am I now the odd ball of the bunch because I am without child? When guys see me with my girls now, they are going to ask what's wrong with my uterus... p...

The most honest relationship is when you can leave your phone out around her. You KNOW she's gonna look through it, so you're comfortable with yourself to face whatever it is that she finds. I've been in many relationships and I've been through many a' phones. My last relationship went a little differently. He is major player, to me, but to everyone else he is this loving caring great friend of a guy so I never really had to urge to look in his phone but the one time I did, I didn't find anything out of the ordinary. He had no pictures of girls, no i love you texts, his phone wasn't even locked. It made me mad that I didn't find anything, why couldn't he be guilty, ugh. Its a great feeling when we find something isn't it ladies? It justifies the reason we looked in the first place, so if we did get caught, we could easily flip the script. Check me: "What are you doing? Going through my phone? No what are YOU doing with a naked picture of a g...

A shoplifter, while standing in handcuffs next to a police officer, told my manager not to curse around her child, who was sitting in a shopping cart full of stolen merchandise. Who are you to talk? I mean I commend her for trying to keep a good environment around her child but youuwhoo... You are two seconds from going to jail for stealing five bags of items and falsifying information to the police. Young mothers, when approached with the alternative of abortion usually get riled up. "I don't believe in abortion, that's against the Bible." Oh and having unprotected premarital sex is parallel to the Bible? Who are you to talk about what's good and bad anymore, your good bad meter has been denied. I work with a whole bunch of young people so I often go on the front end (where the cashiers are) to make it a lively yet pleasant environment. I'm sure you know how it is with a group of young people who grow up to fast with a sprinkle of old people with the brain of...

Why do women always try to keep each other down? We need powerful women in the workplace, especially powerful Black women. So why can't we get past our ignorance and hated to see the greater good? Why do we keep women in power down, only to turn and complain to corporate about there not being enough people that look like us in management. We had a meeting at my job Sunday. I did not attend. So in my absence there were many side remarks about me playing manager, as they call it. When I first heard this, it didn't bother me because to the naive eye that's what it may seem to be, but when I heard the gossip from multiple people it started to upset me because why would you hate on someone trying to better themselves? I am in a position of authority at my job and just because I have been there one year and is already more important than you, who has been there for seven years standing on a worn down floor mat, angrily pounding on a cash register. It just ruins me how we can'...